Kids test our patients but it makes us stronger

Today was the twins conferences. First we saw Tatum's teacher. Wow is all I have to say. She is doing so good. You know it is going to go well when the teacher starts off saying I love your daughter. I guess she is really helpful and really helps other kids that may need it. She is performing well in all classees but Social Studies. The good news is that the teacher is willing have her come in at lunch to work on getting caught up. I know Tatum will take that help and do what she can to do better.
Triston on the other hand we have some issues that need to be dealt with. He is hanging in there on grades and I know that he will have A's and B's but behaviorly he is struggling. He just can't keep his hands to himself. I don't think that he is intentionally hurting anyone rather just being rougher than most kids. He gets along great with his friends so I just don't understand where the roughness is coming from. I was really upset at his conference though when the only thing that the teacher was talking about was his behavior. I had to bring up his grades and how his work performance in class was. It was like she didn't even want to talk about that. What frustrated me was that Don and I know that Triston has something going on we are doing positive reinforcements with him and punishing him if he has had a bad day. I get daily updates by his teacher regarding his day and Don and I still don't know how to fix the issue but we are working on it, we know about it, we are doing all that we can. STOP BEATING US UP ALREADY. We already feel bad enough first that he might hurt somebody and secondly that we don't know how to help him. We didn't expect to sit there for 30min and be lectured about counseling and medication and why haven't we found out what was wrong. I for one don't believe in medication unless absolutley nessesary. My sister had ADD/ ADHD and was on medication all of her life. It never helped her and now she is in jail and addicted to drugs. The doctors could never get the dosage right so she was either a zombie or she felt that she couldn't control herself. So now you know why it would scare me.
This morning before the conferences I was looking back at some old pictures of when the twins were little. They were so cute and we did some awesome things when they were little. We had big birthdays every year, we went camping a lot and it just seems that now we have to many things going on. I told Don tonight that I want to go back to taking those little weekend trips and just get a chance to reconnect. I wonder where I should start first. I think I will plan a trip to Joshua Tree because Tatum and I had such a great time and we know that the boys would have a blast. Maybe we shoud plan another cruise. Jodi you in?